When we meet someone who is a particularly strong mirror for us, we feel an intense attraction (or we may experience it initially as a repulsion or dislike; either way, there's a strong feeling). If that person is of the right sex and has certain characteristics, we may experience the feeling as a sexual attraction. When the energy is particularly strong we have an experience we call "falling in love."
Falling in love is actually a powerful experience of feeling the universe move through you. The other person has become a channel for you, a catalyst that triggers you to open up to the love, beauty, and passion within you. Your own channel opens wide, the universal energy comes pouring through, and you have a blissful moment of "enlightenment" very similar to the experiences some people have after long periods of meditation.
This is the most thrilling and passionate experience in the world and of course we want to hold onto it. Unfortunately, we don't realize that we are truly experiencing the universe within ourselves. We recognize that the other person has triggered this experience and we think it is him or her that is so wonderful! Of course, at the moment of falling in love we are accurately perceiving the beauty of that person's spirit, but we don't recognize that it is a mirror of our own. We just know that we feel this great feeling when we're with them, so we immediately start to give our power away to them, start to put our source of happiness outside of ourselves.
The other person immediately becomes an object -- something we want to possess and hold onto. The relationship becomes an addiction: as with a drug, we want more and more of the thing that gets us high. The problem is that we get addicted to the person's form, not recognizing that it's the energy we want. We focus on the personality and the body, and try to grab onto it, to keep it. The minute we do this, the energy gets blocked. By grabbing hold of the channel so tightly we are actually strangling it and closing off the very energy we seek.
True passion brings us together but neediness inevitably takes over shortly thereafter. The relationship starts to die almost as soon as it blooms. Then we really panic and usually hold on even tighter. The initial feeling of falling in love was so powerful that we sometimes spend years trying to recreate it, but the more we try, the more it eludes us. It's only when we give up and let go that the energy starts to flow again, and we can touch that same feeling.
And I will leave you with that ... food for thought ... as I myself continue to explore what it is that has struck me so profoundly.
Don't worry, I'll share :)
1 comment:
Ahhh...but the feeling is also one of freedom. It makes me think of The Alchemist in the sense that when we are present, and we truly want something, then all of the universe conspires (if you will) to make that happen.
I totally agree it is about being open and allowing the energy to flow, the problem comes when societal constraints, that define you in one role or another, dictate that that role be held true for the good of society. The conflict is inherent in the nature of us as being human beings. It is the outside versus the inside and it comes on both forms. On the one hand, we want to see ourselves as open and free, and on the other hand, we cannot be that if we are what we are supposed to be within the realm of being a productive part of society.
I am not being clear here...perhaps I need to do some more thinking as well....
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